Talking about Sex, can be the most Difficult Conversation!

Aum Sai Ram.

Talking about Sex, can be the most difficult conversation, a parent can have with their fast growing up child. Many who come for counseling, ask my opinion on it, as how to raise the topic with their children and what is the right age for orientation.

Well, there are no hard and fast rules about it. But before you orientate your children about Sex, you should re-orientate yourself about it; convincing yourself, that it's not a taboo and it's another natural act of nature.

So keep aside your concepts of sin, guilt, religion and repression about it and approach it with an open and respectful mind instead. A closed mind, imparts only one-sided biased thoughts on it. Today's children are attaining maturity at an alarming rate, some even at 7 or 8 years of age. Over and above, their mental maturity index also, is high as compared to the children just a decade ago.

So to talk to them about Sex, even at this age is permissible and acceptable. It is not about what they understand, it is about how you make them understand. A child's mind is a labyrinth of imagination, thinking in vivid colors and pictures. Why not use it to your advantage and tell them a story, where the characters play a part of falling in love and then consummating it with the actual act. In this way, you don't address them directly, yet convey the message effectively.

Sex is not bad and there is no "Sin" attached to it. Just ensure whoever chooses to do it, let them be correctly informed about it and the repercussions that follow it.

Apart from being an act of mutual understanding and trust, it is an act of soulful responsibility. If you can't shoulder it, then don't do it.

It's as simple as that.